I mean, not only are we humans, but we have the capacity to make even the most minor mistakes. And when we do, it seems those mistakes are so small that we can’t even see them. And we’re so sure that we’re right, we just don’t think about the impact other things can have on our life, our relationships, and our future.
What makes it so hard to realize that we have things wrong? When we make a mistake, we don’t realize it until our life is in full shambles and our friends are all telling us we have to work on fixing it. Or a lot of other things. Because you can’t see that because of our big, fat, blind spots.
As someone who has been in this position, you know you have to take each occurrence as it comes, because it could change everything. To say you need to fix things before you can see what’s happening to the people and relationships that matter most. But of course, that just means you have to get over the idea that things are wrong. You can’t see the problem and you cant fix it until you’re so sure you are right that you don’t even want to try to fix it.
So lets just say you have a major problem with something important that you know is wrong. Sure you have to fix it. But until you are sure you are correct, you dont want to fix it. Its like a huge red flag that you cant see. It just says “look at me” if you see it and youre too blind to see it.
Like I say, there are some things that you should not fix until you are 100% sure it is not a problem that is going to cause you grief. But the real problem is that the issue is so trivial that the best way to fix it is to start over with a fresh start, starting over with a new idea. Then if you dont like the solution that youve come up with, you can always give it a second chance.
We’ve all been in situations where we’ve had the bad luck to make a mistake, but somehow it never ends up in our faces. And we’re all too afraid to say it out loud, so we keep it to ourselves. Of course, that’s not a very good thing, because if we keep it to ourselves, we can be pretty stupid when it finally happens.
Epic mess up at a critical moment happens when something really important goes right. This is often when the problem is most apparent. Sometimes this is because the solution that weve come up with is so obvious but weve forgotten to actually do it. And often this makes the problem much worse than it would have been had we actually done the right thing.
For example, it’s only natural that we start with a stupid idea and then quickly realize that that idea is stupid and wrong. But when the idea is right, we don’t do it. We don’t act on it. We realize that our idea is wrong and we stop. But we have not yet done the right thing.
Epic mess ups are often a result of not doing the right thing when it is right. In our case, the idea that we have is so obvious that we just dont do it. Because we have forgotten it. And we dont do the right thing because we want to. We want to do it because we want to prove to ourselves that we are right.
Epic mess ups are usually one of the most difficult things a person has to deal with when they are young. You are so eager to believe you are right, you are so sure you are right, that you dont even realize that you are wrong. The best way to avoid an epic mess up is to not even try to figure out what you are right about. You need to stop caring. You need to stop thinking and just do what you feel.